Black Women’s Sexuality: Let’s Stop Trying to Reclaim the Past
[Trigger warning: This article mentions sexual abuse, verbal sexual harassment, attempted sexual assault, and threats of sexual assault.] I find most discussions about black female sexuality strange....
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What It Means To Be MultiGender: The Questions Many Have, But Are Afraid To Ask
There is an infinite diversity of genders in the world. Each person has a totally unique interpretation and relationship with any gender they inhabit. There are at least as many genders as there have...
View Article5 Ways to Maintain Your Queer Identity in a Relationship People Read as Straight
This article originally appeared in EverydayFeminism.com and is reprinted by permission. In a way, there is a safety that comes with being out in public holding a boy’s hand. I’m seen as straight,...
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How Gentrification Shrank My Self Confidence
Gentrification happened to me in steps. At first I was confused. Were the non-POC in this predominantly Black/Brown neighborhood lost? Did they miss their stop on this Queens-bound train? Are they...
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4 Ways You Can Help Society Break Out Of The Binary
Binary gendering can be quite harmful, not just to people who don’t fit into the gender binary, but also to our society in general. That’s why instead of a binary “male or female” system of gender, the...
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Transitioning While Nonbinary
[Image description: Two photos side by side of the author from the waist down. They are standing. They are a young, thin white person. In the left hand photo they are wearing a green watch, a plaid...
View Article4 Keys to Talking About Sexual Desire and Boundaries With Your Partner
I am the sort of person who will refuse to mention anything at all at restaurants when the wait staff or the kitchen makes a mistake with my order. I’ll demurely eat my food, lie when they ask if...
View ArticleWhat You’re Really Saying When You Misgender
“This is Miss Joli, and he’ll be substituting for Miss Alison today,” says an elementary school teacher to her class, as I stand in the back of the room in a solid color blouse, patterned skirt, black...
View ArticleSistah Foodie
I am a self-described foodie. And, yes, I am one of those people who takes pictures of her food, to the annoyance of some. I’m not sure where my appreciation for good food developed, but I know I have...
View ArticleYes, I Deserve Help: Disability and Asking for What We Need
I went back to college this past fall after taking two years off. I’ve always been good at school, often to the detriment of my mental health, but I’d assumed that I would be able to pick up where I’d...
View Article7 Ridiculous Things NOT to Say to Bisexual Folks
Over the years I have been subjected to many biphobic remarks. Biphobia is not just a specific expression of homophobia for folks who are “partly” gay. Biphobia comes from the queer community and...
View ArticleCuidarse a uno mismo y el trabajo social
Si le preguntases a mi madre o a mi novia cuándo hice algo equivocado, te dirán algo como, “Bueno, conociendo a Quita, ella nunca hace nada equivocado”. Pero incluso la Princesa de la Perfección tiene...
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9 Keys for Dealing with Gender Dysphoria for Gender Queer & Trans Folks
I’ve always had a hard time with gender dysphoria. Identifying it has been half the struggle. For most of my life it was unnameable, and unqualifiably sad – a deep ache in the pit of my belly that I...
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8 Ways Non-Binary People Rock!
Those of us who have genders that leap ecstatically out of the gender binary are stellar beings that disrupt, re-define, and challenge traditional conceptions of gender identity and expression, and...
View Article5 Ways to Maintain Your Queer Identity in a Relationship People Read as Straight
This article originally appeared in EverydayFeminism.com and is reprinted by permission. In a way, there is a safety that comes with being out in public holding a boy’s hand. I’m seen as straight,...
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Gender Has Got Me F*cked Up: Navigating the Pressure to Alter My Boi Body
writer’s note: i write in lower case, it’s my small rebellion. i’m mad. i’m mad that gender rules that dictate what is “appropriate dress” for female and male bodies have me thinking about surgically...
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Black Rage and Black Joy: Why We Must Learn to Balance Both
The Body Is Not an Apology’s goal is to share the myriad ways human bodies unshackle the box of “beauty” and fling it wide open for all of us to access. Our goal is to redefine the unapologetic,...
View ArticleGirlfriend versus Girl Friend: How Queer Identity Changes the Impact of Words
As I continue to settle into a queer identity, certain words and their meanings seem to do the exact opposite of settling in. They don’t sit still. Words I’ve never been comfortable using have become...
View Article“Buen chico”: Identificando una “nueva” masculinidad. Parte 1.
La imagen social de que los chicos buenos acaban últimos o los chicos buenos nunca se llevan a la chica ha existido durante décadas, sobre todo en las películas de los ochenta. En esas películas, el...
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Is Healthy Masculinity a Lost Cause?: A Non-binary Person’s Thoughts on New...
Toxic masculinity is the subject of much discussion in our radical self-love community. Fashioning a new masculinity that counters and dismantles its toxic counterpart is an essential element in our...
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